Saturday, March 12, 2011

On Meltdowns and Therapy

This week I received an email from one of my brides who's getting married this summer. It really made my day:

Vanessa,

Last night I had my first (and hopefully only) meltdown during the wedding planning process and your website was truly such a gift to me. I spent hours on it watching all the beautiful videos. All the families looked so happy and it really brought me back to the reality that on that day, it is not going to matter if the bridesmaids' shoes look more champagne than gold or if I am wearing the ridiculously expensive belt that I am obsessing over. I just wanted to write you a little note and thank you for the therapy session! I can't wait to work with you!

- Carrie

How cool is that? I've always thought this blog would be useful for inspiration and ideas, but it never occurred to me that the simple fact of showing happy couples could be a "therapy session" for a bride in the throes of planning. In fact, sometimes I worry that this blog feeds the "my-big-day-must-be-perfect" frenzy by talking about details and features of the different weddings I film (and my own). As much as I love the beauty and creativity of these events, when it comes down to it, that's just not what it's about, is it? It's about happy families!!

Thanks Carrie for reminding me of that, and I'm glad I could help you in the midst of your meltdown.

(By the way, I remember my one major meltdown. The final straw was when my brother saw my bridal portraits and casually commented that my dress fit weird around my armpits. Twenty minutes later I was crying into my tortilla soup in a Mexican restaurant. My brother felt horrible, I got the dress fixed [he was actually right], and my meltdown was quickly forgotten. But remembering that moment reminds me just how stressful planning can be, no matter how much you enjoy it!)


Photo by Casey Jay Benson
Bouquet by Garden Style

Did any of your readers have a meltdown? What caused it and how did you deal?




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2 comments:

Nicole said...

Classic Marek move. hahaha. You looked beautiful.

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